‘A most magnificent, beautifully written memoir’ - Nina Stibbe

'Deft, witty and profound . . . had me turning the pages all night' - Jessie Burton

Jean Hannah Edelstein was looking for love on OKCupid the night she lost her father. She had recently moved back to America to be closer to her parents, leaving behind the good friends, bad dates and questionable career moves that defined her twenties. But six weeks after she arrived in New York, her father died of cancer – and six months after that she learnt she had inherited the gene that determined his fate.

Heartbreaking, hopeful and disarmingly funny, This Really Isn’t About You is a book about finding your way in life, even when life has other plans.

Deft, witty and profound . . . Jean Hannah Edelstein's writing glows with a peerless clarity that had me turning the pages all night. A stunning book. -- Jessie Burton
One of the most brilliant writers of her generation, as witty, wry and unsentimental as Nora Ephron . . . a magnificent book, about families, mortality, love and the hard, necessary work of becoming an adult. -- Olivia Laing
Never sentimental, this memoir is by turns extremely funny and extremely sad; Edelstein is a wonderful writer, and this is a stunning book. * Stylist *
A most magnificent, beautifully written memoir. Unsentimental but heartbreaking, the voice – true and clear. Brilliant. -- Nina Stibbe
A very funny and charming and bittersweet book. -- Jami Attenberg, author of All Grown Up
One of Red’s favourite essayists, Jean Hannah Edelstein’s memoir is a work of deceptive simplicity and heart-crushing truths . . . by the end, you’ll never want to let her go. -- Sarra Manning * Red *
Jean Hannah Edelstein is an exceptional writer, simultaneously wry and heartbreaking. -- Nikesh Shukla
It hits you with the truth, it reads as enthrallingly as fiction can, and it leaves you changed * Elle *
This Really Isn't About You is wry and poignant and true, and I loved it. -- Julie Cohen
The book to read if you’re a Nora Ephron fangirl . . . Jean Hannah tells her story of returning to the U.S after years living abroad, upon hearing the news of her Father’s terminal illness diagnosis. Sometimes sad, sometimes funny; always thought-provoking * The Anna Edit *
Insightful and charming, this is a breathtaking exploration of grief and becoming -- Laura Jane Williams, author of ICE CREAM FOR BREAKFAST
It’s a wonderful, warm and funny dissection of grief and life that left me feeling like Jean was a friend I never made, and wishing I had. -- David Whitehouse, The Long Forgotten
This Really Isn’t About You really isn’t about me, but it resonated in all sorts of ways: as a woman, as a writer, as a daughter. It is funny and serious, moving yet entirely unsentimental, and bracingly truthful. Jean Hannah Edelstein considers life in all its complexity with great clarity, grace and wit. -- Lisa Owens, author of Not Working
A bold and unusual meditation on loss, instability, freedom and home. Engrossing, funny and brave. -- Kate Murray-Browne, author of The Upstairs Room
A powerful debut about a woman who is diagnosed with a genetic cancer syndrome shortly after her father’s death from cancer. Read if you’re into: memoirs, powerful tales written by Jewish women, and heartbreakingly funny writing. * Alma magazine *
Jean Hannah Edelstein has written an elegant, beautiful book about a time in her life that was messy and ugly. It's strange to say such a sad story was "a joy", but her gift as a writer is that it was. -- Emma Forrest, author of Your Voice in My Head
She writes about the biggest and most recognisably tiny aspects of humanity with such detail – and she’s darkly hilarious. -- Daisy Buchanan * Sheer Luxe *
[A]n emotional, rich memoir, and ultimately a story of strength, acceptance, and hope * Publishers Weekly *

Born in the early eighties in New York to an American father and Scottish mother, Jean Hannah Edelstein is a London-based journalist with a signature style that combines New York sass and British wit. Since mid-2007 she has been writing in print and online for the Guardian, Observer, Independent, Independent on Sunday, New Statesman and Sunday Times, on topics ranging from sex to politics to literature. A former columnist for Arena and current contributing editor of Bad Idea magazine, Edelstein has also appeared as a commentator on BBC radio and television. She lives in Brooklyn.