"This amazing little book helps each of us to speak and understand the unspeakable. Are we brave enough to know the truth in this dangerous but lifegiving journey? The book warns and encourages us that knowing can retraumatise at each life stage but also make us strong. Enjoy the clarity and beauty of Valerie's whistle-stop tour of trauma and dissociation." Baroness Hollins, Emeritus Professor, University of London; Emeritus President of the Royal College of Psychiatrists: "Valerie Sinason ventures into troubled emotional spaces to hear what we don't know and, often, don't wish to know. In plain language she has enabled us to see forms of cruelty and the psychic consequences which lead to the extreme splitting of psyches into dissociated and multiple self-states ... A book of interest to clinicians and a much wider audience." Dr. Susie Orbach, Psychoanalyst and founder of The Women's Therapy Centre, London, and The Women's Therapy Centre Institute, New York, and author of Fat is a Feminist Issue, The Impossibility of Sex and Bodies and Bodies