'Brilliant' Kate Silverton, author of There's No Such Thing As Naughty
'An absolute game-changer' Sarah Turner, aka The Unmumsy Mum
'Singularly powerful' Tina Payne Bryson, author of The Whole-Brain Child

The culture of any home is determined by the parents. If you can remain unflappably calm in the face of every supermarket tantrum and sarcastic eye-roll, order will soon follow.

Here, bestselling author Paul Dix reveals how to turn even the most chaotic home into an oasis of calm – by focusing not on your children’s behaviour, but on your own. You will never need to raise your voice again.

‘How simple techniques, and a different way of thinking, can change the entire atmosphere at home.’ iNews

This book is an absolute game-changer. Paul manages to impart practical wisdom about our behaviour as parents - and how small changes have huge impacts - without ever sounding preachy. I laughed, nodded, winced a few times and most importantly felt inspired to make slow, incremental changes to how we do things in our house. Warm, funny and extraordinarily helpful. A must-read for anyone who looks after children. -- SARAH TURNER, aka The Unmumsy Mum
In this fantastic book Paul empowers us parents to put our energy and focus where we can have the most influence: over our own behaviour. With wit and warmth, he teaches us the most miraculous thing - that when we change, our children change too. This is a book every parent needs to read. -- Zoe Blaskey, creator of Motherkind
Many of us have children. Not enough of us truly parent. In this transformative book, Paul Dix offers a simple method to revolutionise the culture in your home - one that will change your children's behaviour and yours. He gets it: the most important part of high performance is high-performance parenting, and this book shows you how to get there. -- Jake Humphrey, author of High Performance
A highly practical, down-to-earth, well-reasoned book. It would enrich the parenting of anyone. -- Barry Carpenter OBE, Professor of Mental Health in Education, Oxford Brookes University
Paul Dix has an approach that I love: he understands that when you see a child differently, you see a different child. For years he has been passionate about supporting teachers and children in the classroom, and in this brilliant book he shares his valuable insights to support families too. -- KATE SILVERTON, author of No Such Thing as 'Naughty'
The principle at the heart of Paul Dix's book is singularly powerful: that if we want to build a loving, resilient relationship with our children, we need to start with ourselves. -- TINA PAYNE BRYSON co-author of The Whole-Brain Child
Another fabulous book from Paul. Sound, sensible advice for families because we know that schools only see children for a fraction of their lives. All parents and carers should read this book and learn the ‘six steps to stay in control’ – helping families be better able to help themselves. -- MAUREEN MCKENNA, former Director of Education, Glasgow
I became a better mother in two weeks . . . How simple techniques, and a different way of thinking, can change the entire atmosphere at home . . . and when that happens, children’s behaviour changes, too. -- iNews

After countless attempts to sabotage his own education, Paul Dix miraculously went on to train at Homerton College, Cambridge, before going on to work as a teacher at some of Britain's most challenging urban schools.

Over the next three decades, Paul would develop a unique approach to behaviour change - one rooted in the calm consistency of the adults. After outlining his method in the bestselling When the Adults Change, Everything Changes, it became a word-of-mouth phenomenon among teachers and has now been drawn upon in over 150,000 classrooms worldwide.

When, in 2002, Paul became a dad, he began to wonder whether his behaviour change method might just work for parents too. Now, for the first time, Paul introduces his findings to the most important audience of all: parents.